About

Hello; We're Bethany and Hillary—besties on a mission to actively disrupt the narrative and isolation of divorce for those in the midst of it and those finding their way after it.

By pioneering a modern dialogue around divorce and the end of long-term partnerships, we are changing the way people experience this type of adversity and the way others support them (ideally with less judgment and more love).

We’re so glad you’re here.

Welcome to Sincerely, Divorced

A lot of divorce or 'end-of-relationship' content is focused on getting over this part of your life like it never happened or it's something to forget about; this is the opposite of that.

Here we learn:

• that divorce is a superpower
• to positively reframe the end of a long-term relationship
• that community is the antidote to despair and how to find it
• that divorce can be good for you, actually
• that it's possible to believe that your happiest days are in front of you, not behind you or dependent upon finding love again (unless you want to)

Divorce is one of the best things that ever happened to us, and we are on a mission to help other people thrive after the end of a long-term partnership and connect with others who are doing the same. Oh, and it's really important to us that we disrupt the narrative of failure and shame that society assigns to divorce.

That’s why I started Sincerely, Divorced: We wanted to create a place where we could challenge the isolation of divorce and reframe all of the negative perceptions of it that we all have (unfortunately) learned to embrace.

As friends who were brought to our knees by the devastation of our respective 10-year and 22-year marriages, we continue to discover stronger and better versions of ourselves (individually and as besties) and we want to help you do the same.

Let's do it one breakdown and glow-up at a time.

Do I need to be a woman, parent, divorced, or at a certain stage of divorce to love this newsletter?

Nope! Our community is unique because it's intentionally inclusive—all genders, ages, identities, and relationship types are welcome (the more the merrier). Trust us, this is a rare find in other divorce spaces today. We are informed by the diversity of experiences and we always will be. We will also keep our finger on the pulse of topics that may pertain more to the needs of a particular subgroup.

Sincerely, Divorced has followers who are still (happily) married but they're here to help someone they love. Many are in the early stages of considering divorce (facing it is hard). Many are in the trenches of divorce—both high-conflict, amicable, and everything in between. Some of our followers just enjoy laughs about the highs and lows of relationships, dating, and want to learn more about how to apply positive reframing to their lives and the challenges life brings us.

Here are the newsletter types:

Hope Notes (every Friday, free)

The Friday newsletter, Hope Note, is for both free and paid subscribers. Beginning September 6, these have links, essays, and commentary on navigating various stages of divorce and adjacent topics and replacing deficit mindsets and perspectives with hope and abundance. After earning advanced degrees and long professional careers in higher education, we love to devour research and share what the experts know so that you don't have to find time to do it for yourself.

Ask Your Divorced Besties (every other Sunday, paid)

The biweekly Sunday advice column is for paid subscribers only, without the constraints of a traditional advice column. Sometimes we're just going to talk about how we made it through the day without crying (although we love a good cry, just not in the middle of a work meeting or reading to a toddler). How do you figure out what to do with the free time that comes with custody schedules? What do you do when your religious community ignores you or disapproves of divorce? Candles and aromatherapy are only so effective self-care strategies. What are three things that should ground everyone's approach to self-care? We take your (anonymous if desired) real questions and the topics that come up in our private Facebook group, on Instagram, and our in-person support group, answer them, and then let the community weigh in with their advice. It's self-care nirvana.

Interested in contributing to a newsletter?

We love hearing other's experiences and perspectives and writing is proven to be therapeutic. Send us an email at hello[at]sincerelydivorced.com to share your ideas.